Lullaby or story depending on the age of the little one.
- A little cooing and cradle BEFORE he falls asleep. You will have to do it consistently several times 10, 12, 157 or 500. Stay firm. If he cries, you pick him up again, lullaby and when he calms down cradle. The idea is that he learns to fall asleep by himself, and when he wakes up, he is in the same place as when he fell asleep. In this way, he learns mechanisms to go to sleep without arms.
- The sleep routine should be at the same time each day. If someday, for exceptional reasons, it is later, it does not matter, but try not to miss it. 19.30-20h bath and at 20.30 be having dinner. Those are my hours up or down a minute; adapt it to your needs, but try not to let the little one go to bed later than 9:30 p.m. That helps you rest.
- While you breastfeed, you will wake up more during the night (so they say). Although it is true that as the baby’s sleep stages grow, they will be established, and she will sleep more hours at a stretch.
- The pacifier can help you fall asleep through sucking. Even if you take it off soon, giving it to him helps him calm down (always after the month, when breastfeeding is already established). But only with sleep function, do not have it hooked to the suck all day. Do not make it dependent, and above all, do not put it under pressure. If he does not ask for it or sees that he does not need it, DO NOT GIVE IT.
Up to three years old, the little ones are learning to sleep alone; they do not know if you will return, where you are going, they begin to dream, and their sleep phases are being established. Now, he can decide to want you next to him, to protest because you are not around and he is alone. He needs you. Patience. It is better not to think about the series you are not watching or the love sessions you owe to your love. Take a deep breath—courage, strength and honour.
I will expand this topic with another post since many of you have doubts, and a servant who is also in the midst of a baby whirlwind knows how important it is to read little things so as not to feel alone and ideas to apply.
She shares your intrepid mother’s tricks to help the little one sleep. They will be more than welcome.
What is spiked cradle syndrome?
Although listening to spiked cradle syndrome sounds scary, it is not. It does not correspond to a fatal disorder or something very complicated. It’s simply the way babies react to sleeping alone.
Surely at bedtime, your little one snuggles into your arms and closes his eyes placidly. But when you put him in his crib, he cries inconsolably as if his mattress had a huge spike that hurt him. Hence the name of this behaviour.
Babies feel unprotected by not being with their mother for the first three months of life.
Reasons why spiked cradle syndrome appears
Some claim that the baby hates the crib because she has been spoiled too much. It would be best if you even let him cry so that he learns to calm himself. But is this true?
There are a number of reasons why your little one does not want to sleep in his crib at such a young age and among them are:
We belong to the category of mammals
If you look at dogs, cats or others, you will realize that they sleep accompanied by nature. It is the most effective way to shelter, feel safe and not be afraid.
The same happens with your son. In your arms, he feels protected and safe, so why separate him? Both he and you undergo a stage of change, so it is better to spend it together.
Babies have sharp instincts.
Although your little one does not speak, he understands the world around him very well. Part of his instinct is that being with you is sure to stay fed and cared for. That is why he claims to be close to you.
The crib is too big
Babies are often not comfortable in a space larger than themselves. Thing contrary to adults. For this reason, yours will certainly want to be close to you and snuggle into your chest, just as he did in the belly.
Alternatives to avoid spiked cradle syndrome
If your reality is this, then we will give you some alternatives to make it more bearable.
Prevent spiked cradle syndrome with co-sleeping
You have to practice sleeping together with your baby in the same bed or having him stay in his crib close to you. This is not an easy task, but you have to be patient and give him time to adjust if possible.
"Co-sleeping or family bed is a practice in which babies or young children sleep with one or both parents. And it is normal in many parts of the world" - Wikipedia.org -
Incl. hears a garment of yours in the crib
Just like puppies, the little ones get used to the smell of the mother. If you put a garment of yours inside her crib, she will likely sit close to you. It doesn’t always work, but it’s worth a try.